Is Online Dating a Tool or a Trap? Considering your Dating Pool

A lot of people struggle with how to use online dating, and what place it should have in their romantic lives. Some people avoid engaging in online dating altogether, and depend on their social circles and going out to meet potential dates. Others use online dating almost exclusively, falling deep down a rabbit hole of digital profiles, likes, and swipes.

In this vlog, we're going to talk about some things to keep in mind when using online dating so it can serve us as a tool and not a crutch.

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Daniel Gaztambide
Dating in New York City is Shit: 6 Fundamentals of Dating (Part 2)

In my last video, we started talking about how dating in New York City is a horrible post-apocalyptic hellscape that slowly but surely eats away at your soul. It’s ok. We’ve all been there. We can’t make it not horrible, but we can make less horrible, maybe even not bad. And to help you on that journey, I’ve come up with 6 foundations you need to assess in your dating and relationship journey. We covered the first three in the previous video, those focused on personal things you can look at to improve your dating success. Things that focus on enriching your life, so you can attract the person who’s the best fit for you. In this video, we’re gonna cover three things that involve our environment, and our mindset toward dating.

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Daniel Gaztambide
Dating in New York City is Shit: 6 Fundamentals of Dating (Part 1)

Dating is shit. It sucks. It’s horrible. And sometimes it’s hard to know if you’re making any headway, or if things are just going to continue being horrible. That’s why in these next two posts, we’re gonna talk about the six fundamentals of dating. Six things that you need to cover as a baseline, as a foundation to having more success in dating and intimacy. Dating is shit, but you need to be on top of this shit in order to know where you’re going. You can use these six things to assess where you are in your dating journey, and where you should focus your energies.

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Daniel Gaztambide
Why we Fear and Need Vulnerability

We often learn when we’re kids that we shouldn’t express certain thoughts or feelings. We come to believe that if we hide a little of who we are, we’ll maintain a connection with our significant others. This leads us to fear vulnerability. But vulnerability is also the glue of human relationships. In this post, we're going to talk about why we fear vulnerability, why it is so important, and how it can actually heal us.

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Daniel Gaztambide
3 Ways to Handle Rejection

When it comes to dating and relationships, we treat rejection like it says something about us—we’re less attractive, not cool, less desirable. It makes us feel bad, at times just plain horrible about ourselves. So if you're someone who struggles with rejection in relationships, I'm going to give you 3 tools you can use to start coping with rejection now. That way, rejection can stop overwhelming you, and start being an opportunity for you to learn, so you can take more risks.

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Daniel Gaztambide