Dating in New York City is Shit: 6 Fundamentals of Dating (Part 1)

Dating is shit. It sucks. It’s horrible. And sometimes it’s hard to know if you’re making any headway, or if things are just going to continue being horrible. That’s why in these next two posts, we’re gonna talk about the six fundamentals of dating. Six things that you need to cover as a baseline, as a foundation to having more success in dating and intimacy. Dating is shit, but you need to be on top of this shit in order to know where you’re going. You can use these six things to assess where you are in your dating journey, and where you should focus your energies.

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Daniel Gaztambide
Why we Fear and Need Vulnerability

We often learn when we’re kids that we shouldn’t express certain thoughts or feelings. We come to believe that if we hide a little of who we are, we’ll maintain a connection with our significant others. This leads us to fear vulnerability. But vulnerability is also the glue of human relationships. In this post, we're going to talk about why we fear vulnerability, why it is so important, and how it can actually heal us.

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Daniel Gaztambide
3 Ways to Handle Rejection

When it comes to dating and relationships, we treat rejection like it says something about us—we’re less attractive, not cool, less desirable. It makes us feel bad, at times just plain horrible about ourselves. So if you're someone who struggles with rejection in relationships, I'm going to give you 3 tools you can use to start coping with rejection now. That way, rejection can stop overwhelming you, and start being an opportunity for you to learn, so you can take more risks.

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Daniel Gaztambide
Staying Sane in an Insane World: 3 skills for combating stress

This video is actually a "care package" I put together recently, to keep ourselves grounded in order to deal with the stress of our daily lives, as well as the crazyness going on in society. Although on the long side (about 13 min), this care package combines three skills--Rating your Subjective Units of Distress (before and after the exercise), Diaphragmatic Breathing, and a Mindful Breathing Exercise.

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